What is the worst thing that can happen if you fail?
You fear that you will fail!🙆♀️ Yes, failure is obvious. What is the worst thing that can happen? You choose to stop yourself by avoiding challenges or new situations despite numerous opportunities that pass your way. Your potentials remain dormant. Take actions to change your beliefs and mindset to be truly you.
I have failed so many times and lost counts of my failures📝✍. Some failures are more hurtful than others. Yet I choose not to give up. One of the failures I experienced was when I completed 100-days work placement as a requirement for my Social Work masters’ program. I felt I was ready and excited to get a job. A vacancy became available, I applied and was invited for an interview. I was 100% confident I would get the job. The interview seemed to go very well as I answered all the questions, there was laughter and ease in the room.
I patiently waited for a phone call 📞at the end of the day for the interview result. Finally, my phone rang, and familiar voice spoke. This was my work placement manager who was also one of the interview panellists. I heard her say ‘Nelly unfortunately, you were not successful at the interview’🤦♀️. Upon hearing those words, I felt disappointed and tried to convince myself that I did not hear her right. She continued speaking and I could only hear her in the background because my thoughts took priority. Then the call ended as we both said goodbye. My main thought was that I had spent 100 working days to gain practical experience; I had not taken a day off, plus I received brilliant comments about my progress.
The questioned ❓ myselfthat if my placement manager could not offer me the job, then who else would? I wondered the effectiveness of work placement and thought if there was a need for it. I felt discouraged and thought my experience was not adequate. I thought the worst thing that could happen was that I would not be able to get a job I desired.
When we are in difficult situations, there are always many options. However, it is common that when experiencing a dominant negative feeling our thinking becomes narrow and focused mainly on the negativity. All the other options become blurred.
As I reflected on the conversation, I recalled my placement manager had said the job was offered to someone else who had several years of work experience. I replayed the interview in my head and wrote down some points to elaborate on the answers I had given. I used that experience as a learning opportunity. I appreciated the interview panellists’ objectivity, and I did not take my placement manager’s message to be personal. I choose to prepare myself in readiness for the next interview.
📌 What failure did you experience that left you fearing the worst could happen? 📌