ENDING THE BLAME GAME: How to accept and relate more to yourself and others
The negative opinions about yourself increases slowly to chronic and toxic levels. Without realising you start doubting yourself, you feel that you are not enough, worthless, shameful, guilty, and anxious. You become jealous, envious, criticise yourself; your thinking becomes black and white (you start comparing in 2 dimensions such as ‘them’ and ‘us’; ‘you’ or ‘me’; ‘in’ or ‘out’).
You develop various fears that distort your perception about yourself, others, and the world. For survive, your ego comes up with a coping mechanism to play the blame game to get immediate relief and divert from the original issue.
The blame game goes in unending cycles. You do not seek solutions to the original issue, and you hope that issue would never come up again. Unfortunately, it will continue to show up until a solution is found.
This leads to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, lack of self- expression, depressed, poor self-care, unhappiness, you become reluctant to do the things that exited you, your sexual drive decreases.
This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because your forecasts about yourself and how you relate with others will come true. You avoid taking responsibility of your thoughts and actions.
Negative thinking occupies your daily thoughts. You desire to be happy, calm and manage life challenges better. However, various fears such as the unknown, failing, uncertainty, being judged clouds your mind. Taking new actions seem IMPOSSIBLE to accomplish especially.
This pattern affects various aspects of your life such as your health, relationships, career, family, finances, and so on.
You pretend to yourself that your situation is ‘comfortable’ when it is actually ‘very uncomfortable’.
How long will you continue playing the blame game by pretending and be dishonest with yourself